Monthly Workshops

Join us in our private community for monthly workshops led by world-class educators for less than $10 per month. We cover topics like shame, relationship repair, attachment, jealousy, compersion, and so much more!

Plus! If you miss the live workshop, or just want to refresh your understanding, recordings of all the workshops are available for community members as well!

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2026 Workshops

Why You Don’t Know What You Want - And How to Find Out

Marcia Baczynski (she/her)

Do you ever feel unsure of what you really want? You’re not alone. In this 90-minute, curiosity-fueled workshop, we’ll unpack what it actually means to “know what you want,” how social and sexual mimicry sneak into our desires, and how to find your authentic yes (and no) again. Expect lively discussion, embodied exercises, and new tools to help you navigate desire—both inside and outside the bedroom.

Marcia Baczynski is a coach, writer, and internationally recognized expert on sexual communication, boundaries, consent, and desire. Known for her warmth and candor, she helps people ditch shame, claim what they truly want, and create relationships that feel right—even when it’s off the beaten path. You can learn more about Marcia and all of her work on her website!

Grieving Queer

Melissa Delizia (she/they) + Lauren Carroll (she/her)

A condensed version of La Mort’s certificate program focused on Queer and Trans death, dying, and grief. This workshop will go over end of life planning specific to LGBTQ+ populations and inclusive deathcare practices and ritual and ceremony for LGBTQ+ communities.

Dr. Melissa Delizia is a social worker, writer, and educator whose work centers transgender and queer experiences of death, dying, and grief. They teach death education through La Mort and host community-centered workshops and events that nurture connection, care, and collective healing around grief, identity, and belonging.

Lauren Carroll, co-founder of La Mort, is a Death Educator & Past Funeral Director who is passionate about weaving community and family back into the death space. Her work centers around re-aligning our culture with Mother Earth, Death, and helping humans remember how to love one another. She is a former board member for the National Home Funeral Alliance and co-founded The Deathwives.

Seduce Your Lover

Marla Renee Stewart (she/her)

Known as the Seduction Learning Approach©, this approach combines academic learning techniques with somatic sexual techniques to teach people how to communicate in effective ways using their erotic intention. We will combine the Seduction Learning Approach© and our personal Love Languages to navigate our prioritized relationships. This highly interactive workshop will teach you how to know if someone’s interested in you, how you can be a better communicator in everyday life and ultimately, how you can get what you want when you want it through the recognition of your own sexual power.

Marla Renee Stewart, MA, CSE is an award-winning sexologist, author, and sexual strategist who runs her own sexuality education company, Velvet Lips, and is also a Co-Founder of the Sex Down South Conference. She has studied human sexuality for more than 22 years and has given over 1000 workshops all over the world. You can learn more about Marla and all her word on her website! Marla was also on episodes 244 and 132!

Building Emotional Resilience

Meshai (she/her)

A 90-minute embodied experience for expanding resiliency and emotional-regulation pathways on our polyamorous and non-monogamous (ENM) journeys.

Navigating polyamory and ENM invites incredible growth—but also big feelings. This workshop offers a grounded, experiential space to build the emotional toolkit you actually need for a more connected, resilient, and self-regulated journey.

Whether you’re new to ENM or well along your path, this workshop offers practical skills, embodied understanding, and community support.

Meshai is a licensed therapist and relationship coach with Expansive Connection; certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy. She believes in the power of living as one’s authentic self, and the freedom that comes from changing perspectives. She loves putting the puzzle pieces together of a couple's sexual energy and aiding them in positive and explorative movement. Meshai also shared her story on Episode 233 and joined Fin for our Ask Us Anything series!

Pressure Play: How To Push, Pull, Squish, & Squirm Your Lovers To Ecstasy

April Curtis (she/her) + Reid Mihalko (he/him)

Did you know that the muscles and ligaments in your pelvis can act like ropes and pulleys to access greater pleasure and body awareness? Did you know there is a sex-geeky, nerdy reason why so many of us love the weight of our lovers squishing us or why we squeal and wriggle with delight when that special someone rides us or holds us down? And that you can do it full-clothed (or not!)? Join Reid and April to learn how you can unlock the hidden pleasures and fun waiting to be unleashed!

Reid Mihalko is an internationally known sex and relationship geek who threw an orgy for Oprah's OWN Network on Lisa Ling's "Our America." He has led thousands of workshops and play parties, and his work has been covered by media outlets across 7 continents. His charisma and easy to understand style of teaching in his workshops and college lectures have been attended by over 80,000 people from across the globe. Learn more about Reid on his website!

April Curtis is a massage therapist with nearly two decades of experience, combining hands-on expertise with a deep passion for movement and body awareness.Having experienced six pregnancies, April possesses an intimate, firsthand understanding of the pelvic floor—how it functions, adapts, and recovers through life’s changes. Her personal knowledge and professional expertise, combined with an endless curiosity for all things body and physiology-related, allows April to take an inside-out approach to sex positivity, and somatic awareness, helping people develop a deeper, more empowered connection to their bodies.

Beyond "I Do": Legal Agreements to Protect Non-Traditional Families

Bekki Callaway (they/them)

Marriage offers instant legal privileges and protections, securing couples and families. Unmarried partners and non-nuclear families lack these automatic benefits, risking their ability to make medical decisions for each other, spend time with non-biological children in the event of a relationship dissolution, or keep their home if a partner dies. In this workshop, you’ll learn what legal safeguards exist for non-traditional families and how you can start the process of legally protecting your family.

Bekki Callaway (they/them) is a queer, non-monogamous attorney and mediator in the San Francisco Bay Area who works with queer, poly, and other non-traditional families and allies. Their practice is focused on creating collaborative solutions that take into account the unique needs of each family. You can learn more about Bekki’s legal practice here or check out their interviews with non-traditional families here.

Embracing Conflict

Bekki Callaway (they/them) + Melanie Rowen (she/her)

Conflict is an unavoidable part of being human, but it doesn't have to be something you dread. While conflict often feels uncomfortable or stressful, it can be a powerful opportunity to deepen your connection with others. Stop avoiding conflict and start mastering it. In this interactive workshop, you won't just learn about conflict conversation skills—you'll feel the difference. You’ll learn to listen with genuine understanding and experience the profound impact of truly being heard.

Melanie Rowen is a queer relationship anarchist, mediator and conflict coach. A recovering lawyer, Melanie mediates and teaches from the Understanding-Based Model of conflict resolution, which emphasizes consent-based process, supporting individual autonomy and honoring connection. You can learn more about Melanie’s practice on her website.

Transforming the Shame Triangle

Jessica Fern (she/her)

In this workshop, you will be guided through the Transforming the Shame Triangle model, which shows how the Inner Critic, Shame, and Escaper parts form a persistent underlying pattern that keeps us stuck in self-judgment, avoidance, and disconnection from ourselves and others. you’ll learn how this pattern shows up through perfectionism, people-pleasing, numbing, or blaming, and how it can be transformed into the Self-Love Triangle through unblending and mapping your own inner system.

Jessica Fern is a best-selling author and integrative therapist with over 25 years of experience supporting relational and personal transformation. Her work draws on conflict transformation, trauma therapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS), somatic and narrative approaches, attachment theory, and spiritual and shamanic counseling traditions.

She is the internationally recognized author of Polysecure, Polywise, and her newest book, Transforming the Shame Triangle. Through her private practice and teaching, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and multi-partner relationships to help them move beyond reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment, and unresolved trauma—supporting greater self-leadership, emotional resilience, and intimacy in life and love. Learn more on her website.

2024 & 2025 Workshops

Intentional Polyamory: Creating Lives that Support Our Relationships

Chaneé Jackson Kendall (she/her)

Many people arrive at non-monogamy by accident, or as the end of a pattern of exploration. This workshop provides an overview of the Intentional Polyamory framework—created to support individuals in building polyamorous relationships rooted in self-awareness, communication, and liberation. You’ll learn about the four pillars of Intentional Polyamory and how these core principles guide individuals in creating fulfilling and sustainable non-monogamous relationships. Through this session, we’ll explore why Intentional Polyamory was developed as a transformative and liberatory approach to love, focusing on autonomy, emotional resilience, and decolonizing relationship norm

Chaneé Jackson-Kendall is a Black polyamorous educator and coach who has dedicated her life to polyamorous education, outreach, and activism. She has openly identified as non-monogamous and kinky for over a decade and you can learn more about her incredible work by checking out her Linktree and by listening to her on Episode 306!

Understanding Shame

A.J. Bond (he/him)

In this workshop, shame coach A.J. Bond will explore what shame is as an emotion, how it functions in our personal development and culture at large, and the causes that propagate toxic forms of shame. A.J. will also touch on some of the possible methods for working with and managing shame for more empowerment and pleasure.

A.J. Bond is a Toronto-based writer, educator, and coach. He is certified as a shame healing practitioner by the Center for Healing Shame in Berkeley and author of the book Discomfortable: What Is Shame and How Can We Break Its Hold? You can learn more about his work at discomfortable.net and you can listen to A.J. on our podcast on Episode 1 and Focus Fridays Season 1, Episode 6!

Befriending Jealously

Dr. Joli Hamilton (she/her)

Does jealousy feel like the enemy? It's totally normal--jealousy brings up a huge set of messy emotions, and it pings all our attachment wounds. Jealousy is not the enemy, though, and it can actually bring you into a closer relationship with yourself and your partners. This workshop is designed to break down jealousy tropes and understand what to do when jealousy shows up in your life. (Hint: it's not just about asking for your needs to be met.) Whether it's yours, your partner's, or a friend's jealousy, you'll leave with more tools for working proactively with this complex emotion.

Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines & founder of The Year of Opening. She’s a depth psychologist, TEDx speaker, best-selling author, and AASECT certified sex educator. Joli also co-hosts the Playing with Fire podcast with her anchor partner, Ken. You can learn more about Joli and her work on her website and listen to her on Episode 294 of our podcast

STARS

Dr. Evelin Dacker (she/her)

Discover the transformative power of The STARS Talk—a groundbreaking approach to fostering intimacy and communication around sexuality. Dive into the nuances of Safety, Turn-ons, Avoids, Relationship intentions, and Sexual health. Through somatic exploration and interactive exercises, master the art of authentic connection and consent, paving the way for deeper, more fulfilling relationships.

Dr. Evelin Dacker (she/her) is a Board-Certified Integrative and Holistic Family Physician specializing in sexual health and consent. Her innovative approach to wellness emphasizes the importance of pleasure in healing trauma and illness. You can learn more about Dr. Dacker on her website and by listening to her on our podcast on Episode 334 and Focus Fridays Season 1, Episode 3!

Releasing the Fear of Abandonment: A Somatic Approach

Orit Krug (she/her)

Do you fear abandonment no matter how much your partner assures you that they won't leave? Do you wish to feel settled and truly enjoy your relationships without worrying that it won't last? Most people try to heal their abandonment wounds with cognitive techniques such as traditional therapy, journaling, and other mind-based strategies. Words and thoughts are often not enough to fully shift abandonment fears. The latest trauma research shows that the most effective way to heal abandonment trauma is through an embodied, somatic approach. In this somatic therapy-style workshop, you'll be gently and safely guided to engage your body in a process to start feeling some of the embodied shifts that are necessary to truly heal abandonment wounds. No previous somatic therapy experience is required.

Orit Krug MS, BC-DMT, LCAT is an award-winning Board-Certified Dance/Movement Therapist and Licensed Creative Arts Therapist. Orit runs international retreats to help individuals, couples & polycules expand their capacity for self-love and intimacy. Learn more about Orit on her website and on our podcast episodes 309 and 378!

The Role of Somatic Attachment in Relational Repair

David Cooley (he/him)

When conflict arises, our nervous systems instinctively search for cues of safety and connection–but too often, unmet attachment needs and nervous system dysregulation get in the way. Without understanding what our bodies are truly longing for in these moments of relational distress, repair attempts can fall flat, leaving us feeling even more disconnected. This presentation dives into four key attachment needs that are essential for creating a somatic sense of safety and security. We’ll explore the practical tools for showing up with warmth, curiosity, and emotional attunement when it matters most and learn how to turn moments of disconnection into opportunities for deeper trust, intimacy, and relational resilience.

David Cooley is a professional Restorative Justice facilitator, diversity and privilege awareness trainer, and bilingual cultural broker. David specializes in working with people in intimate relationships, including non-monogamous and LGBTQ partnerships, incorporating a variety of modalities including trauma-informed care, attachment theory, somatic practices, narrative theory, and mindfulness-based techniques. You can learn more about David and his work on his website and by listening to Episode 312!

Playful Connections: Building Stronger Relationships Through the Joy of Play

Gary Ware (he/him)

In a world where connection often feels elusive, discover the transformative power of play in fostering deeper, more meaningful relationships. This 90-minute virtual workshop invites you to embrace the joy of playfulness in a supportive and interactive environment. Together, we will explore how play can open minds, inspire authenticity, and strengthen both romantic and platonic bonds without the burden of shame. Join us for a unique experience filled with dynamic games and activities that you can continue to practice beyond the session, bringing renewed energy and connection to all of your relationships.

Gary Ware is a creative, yet strategic, Play Consultant that was brought here to make your life even better than it already is. By day, Gary helps companies and professionals level up their skills, and by night he is an improv comedian. You can learn more about all of Gary’s amazing work on his website! He was also on Focus Fridays Season 2, Episode 6!

BURGERS for Agency

Nyxie Noc (any/all pronouns)

BURGERS for Agency is a foundational workshop that introduces a playful yet powerful framework for understanding personal agency in kink and everyday life. Using the BURGERS acronym, participants learn to identify internal and external barriers to agency, explore how consent is only meaningful when rooted in autonomy, and gain tools to support more intentional decision-making. This workshop helps attendees sharpen their awareness, build resilience, and engage in power exchange with more clarity and care. It's accessible, affirming, and designed to empower all roles and experience levels.

Nyxie Noc is an independent educator, consultant, and community organizer with over a decade of experience supporting alternative lifestyle and LGBTQIA communities. Nyxie is also the program coordinator with Praxium, where they help lead inclusive, consent-focused programming for kink and sex positive communities. Their work centers on creating safer, braver spaces for exploration, healing, and connection. You can learn more about Nyxie on their LinkTree.

How to Choose a Pleasure-Based Life

Crystal Baldwin (she/her)

In a world overflowing with stress, your body and brain are hungry for pleasure—and it’s time to indulge. Join us for a dynamic, pleasure-filled workshop where we’ll redefine what pleasure truly means, explore its four powerful forms, and unlock the core principles of pleasure-based living. And yes, we’re saving the juiciest part for last: practical tips, playful tools, and delicious daily rituals to bring more balance, joy, and vibrant energy into your life.

Crystal is a queer, neurospicy sex and relationship therapist providing teletherapy to Maryland adults. She specializes in supporting LGBTQ+, consensually non-monogamous, and kink communities. Her clinical work focuses on sexual self acceptance and expression, religious trauma and purity culture recovery, and opening up or restructuring relationships. Learn more about Crystal and her work on her website!

Minimizing STIgma: A Conversation About STIs, Stigma, and Sexual Health

Dr. Evelin Dacker (she/her) + Courtney Brame (he/him)

Join Dr. Evelin Dacker and Courtney Brame for an engaging and interactive workshop focused on minimizing stigma and fostering open, shame-free conversations about STIs. Learn how to shift the narrative around STI disclosure from a confession to a conversation that prioritizes consent, connection, and mutual understanding.

Courtney Brame (he/him) is the founder of Something Positive for Positive People (SPFPP), a nonprofit dedicated to reducing herpes stigma and supporting individuals navigating life after an STI diagnosis. You can learn more about Courtney on his website and by listening to him on our podcast on episodes 326, 165, and Focus Fridays Season 1, Episode 4!

Dr. Evelin Dacker (she/her) is a Board-Certified Integrative and Holistic Family Physician specializing in sexual health and consent. You can learn more about Dr. Dacker on her website and by listening to her on our podcast on Episode 334 and Focus Fridays Season 1, Episode 3!

Reframing Hierarchy

Marla Schreiber (they/them)

Hierarchy in polyamory, and other nonmonogamous relationships, is a hot topic that invokes many different feelings and perspectives within our communities. It’s such a hot topic, that Marla has decided to stop using that language in their life and work - But we have to name the thing in order to discuss it and alternatives… So here we are! :)

In this workshop, we will:

Define ‘hierarchy’ in order to come to a mutual understanding about the terminology.
Identify the ways that hierarchy can carry over from the paradigm of mononormativity.
Discuss ‘sneakyarchy’ and how it can cause harm in our relationships.
Explore different perspectives about hierarchy in order to support participants in discovering what makes the most sense in their own lives.
Developing critical thinking and imagining how to effectively suspend judgement of self and others

Marla MSW, RSW is a white, Queer, gender-defiant, neuro-fabulous therapist, educator, and author who has been practicing polyamory since 2005. Based in Toronto, Canada, they offer education, training, and consultation for those practicing, or interested in understanding non-monogamy. You can find Marla on social media @polyamarla, or check out their programming through their website and listen to them on Episode 403!

Queering Sex

Bear (he/him) + Fifi (they/them)

Queering Sex is about gently welcoming in new beliefs about sex and intimacy, and creating intentional sex-positive containers for open exploration. This 90-minute hands-on workshop will help with embodying queerness as principle by offering ongoing practices that build comfort and safety between partners, and in solo journeys. By the end, you’ll have a solid set of exercises and affirmations to support with letting go of the default standards and narratives for sex and intimacy that block depth and connection. You’ll have go-to’s to somatically drop you into your authentic desires and release expectations around performance and outcomes.

Bear and Fifi are coaches, educators, and event planners based in New York City. You can learn more about their powerful work by checking out their Linktree and by listening to them on Episode 354!